While it might be a condition that is usually only seen in real life and never really talked about, premature ejaculation is more common, and probably less embarrassing than you think.
Here are our 10 facts on PE:
1. It can happen to anyone
Old, young, tall, short, gay, straight, fit, unhealthy, successful, or down and out – premature ejaculation can happen to anyone, it does not discriminate. So while you’re over there thinking, “wow, that guy’s got it all together, I bet this would never happen to him”, you may just be wrong.
2. It’s a fairly common condition
If you think that you are alone when it comes to, well, coming too fast, well fret not – premature ejaculation is a normal sexual complaint. Around 70% of men have experienced it at some point in their lives, and around 20% of men find it to be a regular occurrence.
3. Some people have it all their lives, and others encounter it along the way
Some people may always suffer from premature ejaculation, known as the primary form of premature ejaculation, whereas others may go through bouts, or have isolated incidences sometimes, which is known as secondary premature ejaculation. The secondary form is more common than the primary, however, they are both acknowledged.
4. It may be genetic
Some research is suggesting that some types of premature ejaculation may be genetic – that is to say, that for some men, a propensity to come quickly is in their genes. If you have the primary premature ejaculation, there is a much greater chance that this is due to genetic causes.
5. It may be caused by anxiety
People who are anxious, whether it be due to having a lot on their minds, or for some other reason, may find that they are often coming too quickly. The anxiety combined with the sensations of sex (or masturbation) may actually guide them to orgasm far quicker than they usually would.
6. And… it may cause anxiety
Feeling like you’ve disappointed a partner by not lasting can also, on the flipside, actually cause anxiety. If anxiety is what is causing your premature ejaculation the combination of more anxiety after the fact can have disastrous compounding effects on your mental health, which needs to be addressed.
7. It can be from physical or psychological causes
As we mentioned before, the condition may be from genetics passed down, but it can be from other physical abnormalities such as out of balance hormones, thyroid problems, and other things. While we mentioned anxiety as a possible psychological cause it can be due to stress, depression, or other psychological strains, too.
8. Premature ejaculation can happen in women too
While it’s not a well-known fact, premature ejaculation can happen in women, too – when women come from just a short amount of stimulation. The figures on this condition in women are not so widely distributed, as perhaps not so many approach professionals to deal with the issue.
9. Exercise may help control it
You can do physical exercises, like kegel exercises to help to strengthen your pelvic floor, and delay orgasm, and mental exercises, like taking your mind off what you are doing while you’re having sex, to help prolong the amount of time you take to orgasm. These can have varying degrees of usefulness to different people.
10. It can be helped, by targeting the cause
The best way to help stop premature ejaculation is to address the root of the cause, whatever that psychological or biological root may be. A consultation with a doctor is a great way to start figuring out the best way forward for a healthy sex life.